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I am so sad to pass this news along to you about our Dear Sacrificial Loon
by BabaYaga ini just heard from his brother that he has passed.
several of you know that he has been fighting cancer for a while now.. oh, sac!
i am so very sorry you have left this world... rest in peace, joy, and light... your fight, suffering, and fears are put to rest.. strength and love to all who love you.. .
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As a JW Kid Were You Expected To Get Baptised By Your Parents/ Congregation
by Hairyhegoat inhere is a quote from a ex-jw about this subject, i myself had alot of pressure from my family to get baptised and finally gave in at 14, wish i had left them a present on the way out of the pool that floated..at the dudley assembley hall .
i can't justify my entire family (parents, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandma) and friends shunning me because i chose not to uphold a dedication i made at twelve years old.
sure it was my "choice" to get baptized.
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I escaped until I was 17. I was 6 months away from 18 and was told by mom and step dad that they could by all rights have me leave, because they were not going to have an unbaptised adult living in their home. I also heard comments from my mom and some of the other old bitties that "Oh dear, who will want to marry her if she's not baptised?" Why does this all seem laughable now? NMKA
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The light came on for both my husband and I progressively. His way of dealing with it was being disgruntled and unhappy but keep going. Plus he changed from a very active MS to the bare minimum. I guess it occurred to me first that, hey we don't have to do this anymore, at all! It was just a culmination of everything, unfairness in the congregation, never being able to do enough or feel worthy, blood, child molestation, shunning and the grueling schedule that just made me say "enough" one day. I never went again. My husband and older child went to a few more meetings and the memorial after that. We are out. All extended family is in and shun us to varying degrees. Thinking about writing a letter soon. NMKA
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What is the average cost to build a new Kingdom Hall
by jworld ini was recently told that the average cost to build a new kingdom hall in the united states rural midwest region was $250,000.
i was shocked to say the least.
i remember when my childhood congregation built a new hall in 1989 for $60,000.
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I have no idea, but never having to set foot in it ......is priceless. NMKA
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How do you feel about not seeing your dead loved ones again?
by highdose init always felt rather unatural the thought of seeing people who had been dead for years.
how would they come to terms with the huge passage of time that had passed?
how would they be able to cope with the fact that their family had probably hugely changed since they had died.
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Not too bad, most of them are the ones that got our family in the big hot JW mess we are in. And I sure as hell am sick of having it held over my head......there you go Missy, quit meetings and you will never see grandma again, emotional blackmail. NMKA
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How did you tell your mate that .....
by stuckinamovement inyou no longer believed that the watchtower organization was the truth, and that you were no longer going to go to the meetings or service?.
and a followup question... what was the response?.
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I had thought about getting out for a while. My husband and I had endless conversations about injustices with the organization and the sexual abuse cases really bothered both of us. Even though we had Internet neither one of use ever looked up doctrinal issues that didn't make sense (so I was not influenced by that). I started to notice that our whole family was unhappy after meetings or service and exhausted, we all slept Sunday afternoons away. I just blurted it out one day, May 2008, on the way home from a meeting that I would not be going anymore! My husband, to my surprise, said he was going to back out slower, but only went 3 or 4 more times. It was only at that point that we researched, read CoC and Steve Hasaan books that we learned the truth about the "truth". My husband admits to being very unhappy in the organization and that it didn't add up but it never occurred to him to stop doing it. We have lost family and friends, but really how fake our relationships that are predicated on a fantasy anyway?? NMKA
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I'd like to talk to some ex-JW couples
by Mad Sweeney ini know a few of the guys here started to fade and managed to bring their wives and family along on the exit.
i will be sending some of you a pm or fb message some time soon.. are there any ex-dub ladies here who managed to influence your husband to re-examine and eventually quit the borg?.
it is very difficult to get to the genuine personality of an indoctrinated jw but if anyone can do it, a loving spouse can.
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I was the one that announced to my 3rd generation very JW enmeshed husband that I would be leaving. I just assumed he would leave me, but he said he would stay with me and that he too would leave the organization ( I could not believe it), it really was the first "sign" that I was doing the right thing. It took much longer to work on getting mentally free and it is still a work in progress. We are closer now as a family, we have had to get out there and make all new friends but it has been a great 3 and half years! NMKA
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how do we exdubs deal with family still in?
by bigmac ini would be interested in hearing how other ex's cope with family members--still stuck in.. .
example--my 90 year old jw dad--been in 50+ years---continued close ties with me since i left 30+ years ago----yet he says he wont talk to his grandson--age 35 ( my son )--who was df 2 years back.
my never jw (3rd) wife cant understand this.. .
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I don't have any dealings with my side of the family, it's been over a year with no contact. My children were never baptised and there is still zero contact. My faded husband speaks to his family on the phone maybe once a month, we have not met face to face in over a year. It is difficult to explain to new friends of the kids or new friends that we don't have any family. Makes me want to come back sooooo bad......not. NMKA
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To Dissassociate or just Fade into Inactivity ? Your Choice ? Reasons ?
by flipper inthis has been asked before, however i thought it may be good for newer members of the board to read some of our reasons on how we decided to exit the jw cult and why we decided to do it the way we did.. first off - i have been faded for almost 8 years.
essentially i decided to fade into inactivity and not da because i have elderly jw parents who would shun me if i did get dfed or daed myself.
also- i like keeping open the possibilities that some of my many jw relatives may in time start doubting and have questions and reach out to me in my inactive state.
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Fader here, I have not been to a meeting in over 3 yrs (abrupt stop). My husband quit too but went to memorial for 2 more years, then stopped going to those too. For myself and the kids I would like to stand on the highest mountain and denounce that cult but my husband is not quite ready, so I don't mind waiting. Most JW family has stopped talking to us and the ones that do is very far and few between. We live our lives, one kid in college, other kid in sports, everyone celebrating birthdays and holidays although we don't decorate the outside of the house. I have about 400 people blocked on face book, hahaha. For anyone sitting on the fence, do what you have to do for you kids! Try to think a few years ahead. Do you want them to go to college? Do you want then to be able to date whom they please? Do you want them to have to feel lesser than at school during every holiday? Do you want them to marry in to some JW family that may end up shunning you or their own siblings? Think down the road! ...................DF wannabe.
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On my way to Cleveland for the 2011 "Let God's Kingdom Come" District Convention!
by MrFreeze inwell, i would be... if i were still going to meetings.
i live in pittsburgh, pa. for as long as i can remember we've always had our conventions in cleveland.
i think the year i was born was when we started going there.
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Mr freeze, I remember assembly always in Pittsburgh as a kid! Then they started having them in Cleveland, you must be a little older than my oldest son, we started having them in Cleveland when he was born 19 yrs ago. NMKA